No matter what, you will always be you.
Move to a new city? You’ll still be you. Get a new job? You’ll still be you. Find a new partner? Still you. Search for a magical life purpose (or don’t)? Still you.
The Simplest Way to Understand Success
You come equipped with certain tastes, talents, and predilections. Although you can increase your motivation and change your behaviors, you more or less have an innate level of natural ambition. You have a worldview and belief systems that shape the way you view the world.
Because of all the above, you have a definition of success that makes sense to you.
If you reach and exceed it, you’re successful.
If you don’t, you’re not.
But how do you know what you really want?
How do you know which dreams are really yours?
Is there a way to figure out whether or not your definition of success is accurate so that you can reach it and be happy?
Yes and no.
What All “Successful” People Have in Common
The way I see things, I accept negative emotions and fear as a given. Since I stop wishing they’d go away, I make a decision about what I’m going to do with these feelings to help me reach my goals.
I use fear as fuel. When I’m afraid, my fear pushes me. I know fear means I’m headed in the right direction. Then, I draw on reference experiences and create positive associations instead of negative ones.
Each time I feel afraid of tackling something new, I’ve taught myself to connect fear with euphoria, instead of fear with real pain and harm.
Do this enough times, and you’ll get addicted to it. And you’ll actually be less afraid. You’ll tackle bigger and better challenges that will scare you, but you’ll have more and more reference experiences.
Then, one day, you get to look back on your grand adventure.
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