Love，but no rush.

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My twinsister just got married to her only love of this life.And before she decided toenter the palace of marriage,she and my-brother-in-law had been in love for tenyears,almost her whole youth.That’s so amazing,especially in this era which anxietyand panic fill in.She was already 27 that time ,apparently an older young ladywhich is broadly called or defined by the traditional point of view commonlyprevailling in my hometown,a small town located elsewhere in this competitively developed city with advanced ideas .

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But you know ,when she was 25（simultaneously include me,but here I just want to talk something about this topic）,rumors or accusations from relatives and neighbors often passed on to my sister.So,many people persuade her to get married quickly ,though she had been inlove for a long time.But she always has her own plan,so then she learned tofilter out useless information and focus on herself.Two years later,when shewas 27,she got married.The wedding ceremony was very grand ,and theprotagonists was moved to cry like the others.Her families are standing off thestage with blessing.I knew  that she wasembraced by happiness as the trust and certainty showed on her face.

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Last week,she went home to visit our parents,and we talked along time in the evening about a lot of things ,including family,marriage,andeven the plan for future.That was the first time she opened up to me.She said:”Accordingto common sense,I should  get marriedwith him as we had been in love for ten years ,and there is a saying that thelonger you fall in love,the easier to break up.But I don’t believe it,nor do Ibe willing to be kidnapped by traditional ideas or morality.Moreover,whether ornot to choose marriage should not only consider the fact of age or some otherthings like house or car,but should pay more attention to my inner hearts—whetherI am ready to be a wife and to face the daily trifles in the future lifetogether .Afterwards,I am ready,then get married.”

What she said really touched and inspired me！Seriously,I’m not writing the abovestory  to call for understanding or standon a theoretical level to subvert inherent ideas.Because I don’t mean to ,besides,Idare not ,that would make enemie among the majority of people as traditionalideas still dominate.

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What I honestly want to transfer is this:just be yourself in the face of being urged to marry if you are not ready to change your role or if you don’t have a suitable partner yet.Getting married or not ,it’s just the choice waiting for the perfect time.

 Here I want to share another happy news about one of my best friends.She will get married with her loved one at the end of this month. The lucky boy is who she had loved for nearly 15 years and they had been in love for more than 10 years.Unbelievable?But just trust me.What’s more,she is not the only girl not married in a suitable age defined for the girls by the public.

My best friend Z is now working in a first-tier city,and lastmonth she had just bought a sport car by herself,and she is now immersed in ahappy relationship.My friend X likes to play music and she already obtains theskill of playing drums.And she also has a boyfriend who loves  her very much and often travel together tosee the world.What about me ?I am also feel very happy as I am loved by my MrRight who is very supportive  of mypursuit .Like now ,I like writing and he is my NO.1 fan and he often tell methat:”Don’t try to please others,just please yourself first.I’ll get you in theway if anything happens.”

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So,darling, Don’t be interwined with the the choice like the title shows.Remember：Love,but no rush,unless you are ready.