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RESISTANCE AND VICTIMHOOD
Doctors estimate that seventy to eighty percent of their business is non-health-related. People aren’t sick, they’re self- dramatizing. Sometimes the hardest part of a medical job is keeping a straight face. As Jerry Seinfeld observed of his twenty years of dating: “That’s a lot of acting fascinated.”
The acquisition of a condition lends significance to one’s existence. An illness, a cross to bear. Some people go from condition to condition; they cure one, and another pops up to take its place. The condition becomes a work of art in itself, a shadow version of the real creative act the victim is avoiding by expending so much care cultivating his condition.
A victim act is a form of passive aggression. It seeks to achieve gratification not by honest work or a contribution made out of one’s experience or insight or love, but by the manipulation of others through silent (and not-so-silent) threat. The victim compels others to come to his rescue or to behave as he wishes by holding them hostage to the prospect of his own further illness/meltdown/mental dissolution, or simply by threatening to make their lives so miserable that they do what he wants.
Casting yourself as a victim is the antithesis of doing your work. Don’t do it. If you’re doing it, stop.
生词:
VICTIMHOOD:受迫害情结
抵抗与受迫害情结
医生们估计,他们的病人中有70%到80%与身体健康无关。人们没有生病,他们是在自我演戏。有时候,医疗工作中最困难的部分就是保持冷静。正如杰瑞•宋飞(Jerry Seinfeld)在评价自己20年的医生生涯时说的那样:“那是一种对表演的痴迷。”
条件的获得对一个人的存在具有重要意义。去承受一场病或者一个十字架。有些人在不同的条件下生活;他们治愈了一个,另一个突然出现取代了它的位置。这种情况本身就变成了一件艺术品,是受害者通过花费如此多的精力来培养自己的情况而避免的真正创造性行为的影子版。
受害者的行为是一种被动攻击的形式。它寻求的不是通过诚实的工作或通过自己的经验、洞察力和爱做出的贡献来获得满足感,而是通过无声的(或不那么沉默的)威胁来操纵他人。有受迫害情节的人强迫其他人来拯救他,或按照他的意愿行事,他将他们作为人质,让他们面对自己的进一步疾病、崩溃、精神失常,或者只是威胁要让他们的生活变得悲惨,除非他们做他想做的事情。
把自己塑造成一个受害者,与你的工作背道而驰。不要这样做。如果你正在做,要停下来。





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