努力是一个我不喜欢且尽量避免的词。
下面我来试图解释一下为什么努力在我眼中是一个负面词汇。
首先，让我们想想，什么样的人会崇尚努力？
应该是那些有所追求的，并且希望通过自己的努力来改变生活的人。可能有些人表面上会告诉别人，他们喜欢自己努力的样子或者努力的过程。但是，其实大部分人努力的内在动机就是提高他们现在的生活状态。比如，在学生时代，小朋友的努力为了学习成绩更好，工作后，年轻人的努力是为了让自己挣更多的钱，或者是让自己事业有成获得社会地位。所以，总而言之，努力是大部分人通往他们眼中“成功”的目的地的一个手段。
那么，让我们来想一下, 如果我们想要的是成功。(这里对成功的定义是： 是逐步实现有价值的目标或理想。), 努力是不是一个好的手段?
The definition of success: Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal. Earl Nightingale
我当然认为它不是一个好的手段。我们可以去寻找一下满足世俗社会定义的那些“成功人士”，他们的成功是不是源于努力。 （ 不要去看他们写的自传，自传往往会弱化外界环境以及机遇的影响而强调自身的努力。）事实上，大部分人的成功来源于有一个良好的家庭（因而早期受到很好的教育，在事业初期有资本等等）和他们所做的事情顺应了时代发展的潮流，同时，他们做的事情适合他们的内在外在的素质。我们的印象中，很多人的成功来源于努力是因为新闻和电影等媒体更喜欢去寻找并报导这样的故事。
So many of those I've seen who've had tremendous results in their life - people to whom joyous things happened materially, with relationships, and health-wise-don't seem to put out very much physical energy to receive these things. They seem to work a lot less than a lot of the other folks who seem to work much harder but who then receive so much less. So where does the physical work, or action part, fit into your recipe for creating what we want? You did not come into this environment to create through action.Instead, your action is meant to be a way in which you enjoy what you have created through thought. When you really feel like jumping into action, that is a clear sign that your vibration is pure and you are not offering contradictory thoughts to your own desire. When you are having a hard time making yourself do something, or when the action you offer does not produce the results you are seeking, it is always because you are offering thoughts in opposition to your desire. Action that is inspired from aligned thought is joyful action. Action that is offered from a place of contradicted thought is hard work that is not satisfying and does not yield good results. You are mostly physical-action Beings at this time because you do not yet understand the power of your thought. When you are better at applying your deliberate thought, there will not be so much action for you to tend to.
而且，我更想要提醒的是，如果你发现自己在做某件事上需要努力，那么很大程度上，你所努力的方向是错误的。我们不得不承认，人和人之间千差万别，可能有的人有艺术细胞，那么他们从事艺术行业是水到渠成的事情，而其他人适合从政，那么他们可能更容易在政治上平步青云。如果，让一个适合艺术创造的人来从政的话，就是一个“事倍功半”甚至是“事倍无功”的选择。这也是为什么很多“鸡汤文”会说“选择比努力重要”这不无道理。
这里，我想拿五条人来举例子。仁科和阿茂都是从小没有受到很好的音乐教育的，可以对比Mandarin。他们学习乐器的时间，在现在家长眼中很晚。于是，在采访的时候经常会被问到怎么坚持或者努力学习乐器的。 他们的回答是认为练习乐器来源于热爱，并不需要努力，这是自然而然的事情。（见专访五条人乐队（2）我们都是“导”字辈儿的对喵说 和《五条人：该尴尬就尴尬》)
"上初中迷上摇滚乐，是因为看了魔岩三杰在红勘体育馆的演出，觉得窦唯、唐朝他们拿个电吉他甩头发很酷，就抱个扫把在家里模仿。后来到处找人学吉他，你感兴趣就会想办法去接触这些，我们不会像那些从小被家长逼着练乐器的孩子，不觉得玩音乐是需要努力坚持的事情。" 茂涛 《五条人：该尴尬就尴尬》
最后，我想说说我认为人生的意义。人生是用来经历和体验的。我们最终达到什么目标，如何成功并不重要。真正重要的是，我们在每一天有没有感受到爱，感受到世界自然的细微美好，有没有感觉到自己身心灵的合一和自由。而在这个大前提下，努力是“扭曲”我们而存在的，是和我们的内心背道而驰的行为。如果我们像老子提倡的那样，放下“为”而去尝试“无为”，也许，我们最终的结果反而是顺着生活的浪潮前行, 因而不费力气地“无不为” 。
Nature Does Not Hurry, Yet Everything Is Accomplished. - Lao Tzu
道恒无为，而无不为。—— 老子。
You are born. What effort have you made to be born?
You grow. What effort have you made to grow?
You breathe. What effort have you made to breathe?
Everything moves on its own, so why bother?
Let life flow on its own; then you will be in a let-go.
Don't struggle and don't try to move upstream, don't even try to swim; just float with the current and let the current lead you wherever it leads. Be a white cloud moving in the sky - no goal, going nowhere, just floating. That floating is the ultimate flowering.
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