19. Relationship

Day19：Develop better relationship with neighborhood

A near neighbor is better than a distant cousin, good fences  make good neighbors.

Good neighbors are a lot like electricity or running water: we don't know how much we depend on them until we don't have them. They make our lives more pleasant and give us a sense of who we are, both as an individual and as a member of the community. Here's how to develop your relationships with these very important people in your life.

Strike up a conversation. Often neighbors don't even know each other's names. But it's okay to be the one to break the ice, even if you've lived next door for years. Most neighbors enjoy making small talk with the folks on the other side of the fence.

Avoid causing inconveniences. Return anything that you borrow from a neighbor, such as tools, in good repair and as soon as you've finished with them. Replace anything that belongs to your neighbor that you, your children, or your pets break or soil.

Care about the details. In a good relationship, it's really the little things that count. Help to bring in the mail for the elderly neighbor when there is a heavy rain.

All it takes to develop your relationship with neighbors is the respect for their feelings.

第19天:与邻居发展更好的关系胜过远亲，好篱笆造就好邻居。

好邻居很像电或自来水:直到我们没有它们时，我们才知道我们有多依赖它们。它们让我们的生活更加愉快，让我们意识到自己是谁，无论是作为个人还是作为社区的一员。以下是如何发展你与生活中这些非常重要的人的关系。

搭讪。往往邻居连对方的名字都不知道。但是做一个打破僵局的人是可以的，即使你已经在隔壁住了很多年。大多数邻居喜欢和篱笆另一边的人闲聊。

避免造成不便。你从邻居那里借的任何东西，比如工具，都要完好无损，用完后尽快归还。更换任何属于你的邻居，被你、你的孩子或你的宠物弄坏或弄脏的东西。

关心细节。在一段良好的关系中，真正重要的是小事。下大雨时，帮老邻居送邮件。

发展你和邻居的关系所需要的就是尊重他们的感受。