2019.3.4 Monday Sunny
己亥正月廿八 新邑西郊
Actually,there is a defect in the approach to problem-solving more primitive and more destructive than impatiently inadequate attempts to find instant solutions,a defect even more ubiquitous and universal.It is the hope that problems will go away of their own accord.A thirty-year-old single salesman in group therapy in a small town began to date the recently separated wife of another group member,a banker.The salesman knew the banker to be a chronically angry man who was deeply resentful of his wife's leaving him.He knew that he was not being honest either with the group or with the banker by not confiding his relationship with the banker's wife.He also knew that it was almost inevitable that sooner or later the banker would learn about the continuing relationship.He knew that the only solution to the problem would be to confess the relationship to the group and bear the banker's anger with the group's support.But he did nothing.After three months the banker found out about the friendship,was predictably enraged,and used the incident to quit his therapy.When confronted by the group with his destructive behavior the salesman said:"I knew that talking about it would be a hassle,and I guess I felt that if I did nothing,maybe I could get away with it without the hassle.I guess I thought that if I waited long enough the problem might go away."
实际上，这是一个在解决问题中存在的瑕疵，比不耐烦地试图找到即时解决方案更原始和更具破坏性，一个更普遍存在的更常见的瑕疵。希望问题能自行解决。一个三十岁的单身推销员在一个小镇进行集体治疗开始约会另一个团队成员，一个银行家的新婚妻子。推销员知道这个银行家是一个长期愤怒的人对于他妻子离开他深表愤恨。他知道他不是诚实的，对于这个团体或对于这个银行家,由于没有吐露他与银行家妻子的关系。他也知道这是不可避免的，迟早银行家会了解这段未中断的关系。他知道解决问题的唯一办法是就是向团体承认这段关系并且在团体的支持下承受银行家的愤怒。但是他什么也没做。三个月后银行家发现了这段友谊，可预见地被激怒了，并利用这一事件退出他的治疗。当他因他的破坏性行为面对团体时，这个推销员说：“我知道谈论这件事是件麻烦事,我想我觉得如果我什么都不做,也许我可以摆脱困境.我想，如果我等得够久的话，问题可能会消失。”
Problems do not go away.They must be worked through or else they remain,forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit.
问题不会消失.它们必须通过努力否则它们就一直在，永远是一个精神成长和发展的阻碍。
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